The launch of my newest book Educator Bandwidth: How to Reclaim Your Energy, Passion, and…
My first reaction? Frustration that threatened to quickly move toward anger. Lucky for me, I didn’t run into the responsible parties while I was discovering what hadn’t been done. If I had, I might have resorted to the kind of blaming tactics that I hope I left behind on the grade school playground!
But something reminded me to ask myself, “What was your part in this problem?” What had I done, or not done, that resulted in their lack of follow-through? As I reflected, I had to admit that I probably hadn’d specifically outlined how a couple of simple actions on their part would not only support my goals but probably improves results for them and for us.
As an old Irish saying puts it,
“Why do we judge others by their actions and ourselves by our good intentions?”
Before being sure that blame rests with the other party, consider
- What did and didn’t I communicate?
- How might an objective party view what happened?
- What should I have done differently?
- Why might my actions have sent messages different from what I intended?
- What lesson have I learned? What will I do differently next time?
And, if you can’t come up with any answers to these questions that name your part in creating the problem, might I suggest reading Leadership and Self-Deception, an in-depth look at this difficulty that befuddles all of us at one time or another!!